Inside the Jungle

Sex and the Jungle is a memoir about my sex life evolving from religious repression and shame, through desire, frustration, and real encounters across the world's sexual jungle, as I unlearned and rewrote the cultural scripts I inherited, and arrived at erotic freedom, confidence, and passion.

The book is a work in progress. Below is a look inside the jungle and the chapters it contains. If you'd like a sneak peek at some of these, subscribe and leave a comment telling me which chapter you want to hear more about and I'll let you know when it's ready.

The Jungle Chapters

Season 1 — Formation

My early life shaped by religious repression and shame, secrecy, grief, and my first guilt-filled sexual experiences

My Christian Upbringing — Growing up in a conservative Christian home
Exploring Under Cover — Childhood sexual exploration done secretly
The Good Girl — My first crush on a supportive Christian friend after my mom passed away
The Bad Girl — The girl who "corrupted me" and inspired me to blaze my own trail
My First Time — Watching Scary Movie 3 and hiding in the closet
On the Bathroom Floor — Drunken sex at a party with church friends
Purity Culture — A relationship with everything except penetration
The Woman of My Dreams — A recurring sex dream I had for many years
Porn Sex at the Lake — A late night skinny dipping adventure
Meeting in the Basement — Secret sex with my ex's housemate
The Hot Sisters — Sexual encounters with a family of Christian sisters
America's Favorite Cookie — My first interracial relationship
Missionary Passport Bro — Missionary work and casual sex in Latin America

Season 2 — Fracture

I leave religion, jump headfirst into sexual freedom, and my life falls apart.

I Said No Five Times — Being sexually assaulted by a man I trusted
Excommunication — Kicked out of the church after consensual sex
The Worst Best Sex of My Life — An embarrassingly bad sexual encounter I thought was better than it was
I've Never Danced Like That Before — Sloppy drunk dancing with a talented Argentinian Tango dancer
Getting Weird Together — My first threesome with two housemates
Fucking My Way Around the World (Or Trying) — My first year as a digital nomad full of parties, drugs and drunken Tinder dates
Epic Dick Pic — She flew from Ohio to Singapore for bad sex in a hostel
The Sex Questions Game — How I learned to talk to anyone about sex
Awkward Beach Threesome — She took both of us home naked, but I ran away
Anxious Try Hard — Flirting with painful codependency
Cancelled — A falling out with leftist friends after a nude drunken incident
Sex Without Alcohol — Quitting drinking and my first sober sexual encounter
Being the Other Guy — Having sex with a cheater ended badly
The Rainbow Family — A nude group massage with tantric hippies
Incel Dry Spell — Two years of low confidence, frustration, and loneliness
Obsessed with a Mean Girl — Doing anything for a crumb of her attention
Rejection Challenge — Getting rejected 13 times in a row
Full Moon Skinny Dip — A romantic one night stand under the full moon that almost didn't happen
Sex with Three People in One Day — Trying to find my status in how many lovers I could have at once
Social Distancing — Failed pandemic dating attempts and chronic illness
My First Sexual Relationship — We mutually used each other for 6 months

Season 3 — Initiation

Entry into tantra, consent culture, nudity, and intentional sexual spaces

Touching God Through Sex — Transcendental one night stand at a nudist resort
My First Swinger Party — My introduction to the swinger lifestyle in Las Vegas
Well, I'm a Lesbian — A reconnection with a past lover that didn't go as expected
Tell Me if You Have Sex with Someone Else — A painful non-monogamous relationship attempt
She Made Me Cry Like a Baby — A guided meditation for healing my mother issues
Saying No to Tantra — Truly understanding boundaries and consent for the first time
Are You a Tantra Guru? — Starting to realize the power of simple tantric prescence
We Should Get Together Sometime — A woman asked me out in front of her partner
I Met a Sex Witch — The tantric twins who inspired me to write this book
I Think You Like to Be Seen — Realizing no one is "out of my league"
Failed Sex Magic — A bioluminescent swim with an awkward ending
I Felt Like a Clown — Leaving sexy tantric play parties feeling like an idiot
Gratitude for a No — My experience joining a platonic cuddle community
Oh, You're Good! — An erotic dance with the most talented lover
Tantric Anal with a Cult Leader — Fucking her in the ass while staring at a painting of Jesus
Just Hit Me, No Sex — Learning about impact play
Cringey Seduction — The woman I met at a conscious seduction workshop who taught me to embrace being cringe
Authentic Relating — Learning to be honest about my desire for sex with a friend
Sex Rituals — Learning tantric rituals from a flirty hotwife
The Temple Cave — My discovery of a secret cave for sex rituals
Defending Women — Angry confrontation with a violent man that didn't end well
Meeting My Shadow — A scary confrontation by an angry man that was too familiar

Season 4 — Integration

Sex becomes abundant, social, playful, and embedded in everyday life

Bounce On It — My first long term open sexual relationship
Rising Waves Against the Rock — Stoned sex on a seaside cliff during a storm
Naked Ecstatic Dance — Freedom and safety of mutual intimacy over performance
My Birthday Foursome — My favorite birthday party so far
Sexy Villa Play Parties — Being the "Daddy" of the house, co-hosting sex parties
Monkey Sex — Witnessing primal sexual instincts and discovering deep connection without sex
Horses and Lavender — Discovering that a brat/brat-tamer dynamic really works for me
A Pool of Naked Bodies — A coconut-oil covered sensual group experience
Seven Naked People on a Paddle Board — Playful anecdotes from the nude beach
What Did You Say to Her? — Men asking for flirting advice on the nude beach
Sand, Sunset, and Secret Signals — Discovering that exhibitionists are way more common than I thought
Edging with the Weather — A rainy day with a partner at the nude beach, meeting another couple
The Scent of Attraction — Why I've started smelling people on first dates
"Honey, I’m a Sex Worker", he said — Sexual experimentation with hands-on sex researchers